It all starts when you go back to Nepal after a while and families start pitching in their opinions about YOUR marriage. And there's no looking back. You dont want to marry a guy from Nepal because you think different; you dont want to marry a guy from here because the ones around you are either arrogant (if they have made a little money) or useless (cause they dont know where they're going). The third kind is yet to find. What do you do? I hope a lot of girls using this forum have similar dilemmas...

DC_Girl Get Laid. you will forget about getting married.

Where are you? why don't we just together and see what you really have to offer DG_GAL. I am excited about you and your comments. Let me know if you'd like a piece of me.

okie let me be decent and nice this time...................i dont want to give agony to anyone..........Imagine u dated nepali gal for longtime.........language is similar ...............culture is similar and relegion too................u r parents will be happy too....................but have any movie ever shown what happens after this love marriage.........there is hardly a happing ending in case of 93 ppl out 100. The best part is love marriage hardly works coz there is no fun after wedding , she remains as mother of ur kid and just change in status from gf to wife.................it is only the difference of wearing ring in hand which was started by romans to show the status..................I mean there is so much fun after arrange marriage............u r parents will always think good for you and the bride or groom they look for u is preety/handsome or well established male or nice educated good family backround gal.

Man imagine suhag rat..........u r having a sex with gal u never know before...........after the sex sorry loving making initimacy grows , u start to talk then u get closer............it is nice feeling and u r falling in love after wedding which grows strong and strong.....................man........but if u r doing love marriage...........u already had suhav rat and suhag din.................it is just like putting pole in same old hole. The best way is to go for is arrange marriage..............u see the pic first then u got see the gal she comes shyly then u want to talk to her...................come back home her face will visit around ur celebrum 24/7.............daam nigga this is fun.................other while u are oversea just have fun man........

i had sex with more than29 different nationality including pakistani gal as well..........there is few left like scandavina gals specially swedish, denish, norwaygien and some iraqi puls afgani gal..................let me enjoy my life man..............i am too young for this thing........................

why not? Bhare pheri ekanta maa runu taa chadai cha

SMOKE WEED EVERYDAY...................GAZA KHAU SHIVA KO GUN GAU

Dayummmmm Soliel,

That's what they call "bagal ma chora, sahar ma dhindora" in our Terai. ;) If Soliel becomes a-man-who-isn't-there, then I don't know what kinda man DC_girl is lookin' for. Seems like she is more concerned about finding a third kind... close encounter of a third kind, oh, that sounds like Kalankisthan... ;) who is kinda useful, wakes up early and knows how to make superhit coffee :D ain't that useful? Well, party useful but it's better than someone useless. More usefulness?? Well, Kalanki knows how to drive ;) He can drop her off to Mall and come pick her up... ain't that useful? If wanted, he can even hang around with her in the mall, can talk about virtually everything yet nothing depending upon her mood.:) That sounds useful. Well those are only few examples of usefulness. hehe...

About arrogance, well, Kalanki is bit arrogant, eh, being a true Nepali ko chora he grew up with the notion of "Beekh (poison) nabhaako snake ke snake, Ieekh nabhaako manche ke manche"... but not that much arrogant to blow her brains out like a firestone tires. Does kalanki sound like an example of the third kind? Well well, dunno, eh... DC is too far away ;) I'd rather go to Boston... and throw a bbq party there... in the same park, and invite the same crowd, how about that??? Oooh, seems like those girls in Boston BBQ party eat real Basmati rice for the lunch and dinner!!! :D:D Kasto sukumari hau???

Enuff with bs, back to do the real thing... ;)

DC_girl, good-luck finding a third kind... (third kind? like ET? well he is in NYC and happily married... eh!! hagi hagi hagi??)

Dc_girl ......well, I believe you are probably the first Nepali girl I read you ever declare that you are equally concerned about the happiness of the guy( who will marry you ) as much as of your happiness.

Otherwise, according to my experience , girls would put their happiness above anything else and hardly ask or wanna know if the guy (she wuold be getting married to) would become happy by marrying her.

A small declaration, a giant leap into fairness and openmindedness.
(Small footsteps, a giant leap for mankind ko modified version)

I might start looking for a third type then......if there are any around??

Hmm people are taking about Type..

I guess, you all have to click with eachother rather than setting up the requirements..


Cheers

MoneyMinded thanks for you compliments and keep on writing.. those are your opinions and how you feel about things.... people can't judege you just because you think different and look different... if everyone looked alike and think alike..... noting would be fun anymore in earth... each and every chick would look the same..... after sometime you penis will be lame... it will be like .. comon' mofo.... find something new.... why the same shit and goes same for the girls too.... every guy you try to flirt with looks like your cousin or your brother.... man it would be a lame asz world....

about the 3rd kind.... the answer is the married kind girls............Most girls I have talked say that... all the men they like are either married or engaged.... human beings have a tendecy to like things they don't have.... I know you some girls here would love to like me.... they would take me home and treat me like a king and in a few days they find out I am not special.... I am just a regular guy.... it is like ... you see some nice asz car drive by you.... you want to buy that car.... you go to the dealer and buy the same car... tell you what ???? in a few weeks you will wish you had bought another one....
Humans are never satisfied..... the best thing in the world is to learn to agree with reality and learn to make the best out of what you have got at the present moment..

like my civic example..................... you buy a Porche... it will cost you about atleast 65 garnd ($65000) the minimum.... now there is nothing you can do to the car... because the damn' thing cost you an arm and a leg........ you will have to be satisfied with what you have.... there can't be no modification of any sort.... even if you do than the damn thing will cost you way over $100000............... BUT you go BUY a used civic for $6000 and modify that Biatch the way you want as much as you want... as many times as you want and you will reamin happy till you total that shit........... what I am saying is ......... if you get something that is perfect.. there is no room for improvement.. but if there are something that is not flawless than you have plenty of room to work on.......... that is why so few Porche's are made and a very few people drive it.........................
SAME WITH PEOPLE TOO.............. all the perfect ones are gone........... and are rare
.................get someone you can work on and get to know eachother..... nobody is perfect if they are living things.. You work on him/or and let him/her work on you.... that is the best kindda life you can have.... otherwise you will be looking for that perfect thing all your life and even though u find one it will be used because you couldn't afford it new............................. tell you what most people in the market looking will fall in the used buying category.............. most who can afford will already have.......
I hope I am making sense here.....

EYE OF THE BEHOLDER

OG (original gorkhali)

wo wow Gorkhali! Cool down, cool down.

Whoa! Look at him get angry, maaaan!! All I had said is its hard to find a realistic, ambitious, openminded Nepali to get married to in this place (since all that is echoing in my brain right now after reading this thread is the disgust You and Moneyminded carry with yourselves). Jesus, if you just wanted sex, go get a whore to do the job for you. Dont treat us like a commodity. I mean, your phrases above, 'after ejaculation, sex is over. Go get a vibrator and play...' , What the f**k??? Relationship. Thats what we are talking about. We arent watching a movie on how two commodities interact. And somebody else said in the thread said ( dont remember if its you), that he'll take his wife to the mall, come pick her up, make a coffee in the morning...Women can do things on their own- at least I can go do my own shopping, make my own coffee, in fact, I'll make one for you if you want!

When I first started this thread, I was throwing a question on air. Thinking, may be, there are other women who feel the same way. I didnt want to make it personal, but since everybody here assumes that I'm desperate to find someone, for all of you who think so- I AM NOt LOOKING. And I wouldnt be pleading to Sajhaites to go find a groom for myself. Jesus. There are better ways.

On your question about how many hours I work and all that shit, none of your business- and completely irrevalent to what I started the thread for. And one more thing, may be you know better, since you mentioned earlier that you were married, But, to voice an opinion for myself (I dont know what other women think and dont want to be voicing wrong opinions), I have no objection to let my b/f and/or a potential husband do what they want, unless it poses a threat to relationship. If women dont act and let you do what you want even on the verge of failing relationships, then you'd probably be on the streets, divorced and feeling miserable about what just happened to your beautiful marriage. That is why women. They build relations, not break them. You cannot just whine about small things (may I remind you, who does your laundry, who goes grocery and cooks for you, who does the ledger book, who finds your socks when you're running late for office?? Just sticking to the traditional TV serials, since I'm sure my b/f will have a possible share of all these). So just dont whine about how women want to manipulate you.

Anyways, this isnt leading us anywhere. So if I have caused you any trouble by starting this thread (since I've angered you so much, you brought out your Mahabharat with you...), I am sorry. I dont want to be sounding a Bitch, while I've no intention of personally slashing anyone. You're all just great, and have a great sense of humor (although some were very pervetive- almost made me puke). So, Chill YOs!

Peace out Ghorkhali and DcGirl.. I am sure we are not going anywhere with all this ranting at each other...

Relationship.. i guess thats what this thread is all about but i guess it is going somewhere else. I really dont wanna poke my nose in this, after all you all are adult (i presume)

So Peace out.. Its friday night.. Chill out fellas..


Have a great Weekend.

cheers

Squeeze me...... MISS_DC....... all I was telling you is stop looking for that perfect man in your life...... no one is perfect.... you have to make do with what you got..... that is all I am saying............ about sex.............. any guys who is telling you is lying or you are watching too much porn..... one or another.............. what I meant to say is....... girls want to do it in a romantic way.. kissing head to toe... choclate syrup and what not... men just want is in and out and when it is over it is over...... that is what I was saying.......... sorry if I was a little graphic........... I was just trying to entertain the croud........ a little sexy humor didn't hurt anyone.............. but trust me......... any fool who tells you all that crap is bullshitting big time................. let me speak for myself.............when I see some chick............ you know what I am thinking???? I am thinking this girl is hot......... I wonder how it would be take her to bed........ that is what I think and most men think like me............... I am just a avarage dude...... but trust me when a man says ....... he thinks she is his sister or aunt or mother or whatever when he sees a goodlooking gal..........( he is 100% fag) or he needs viagra... go and ask any of your guy fren's about what I said and 99% will tell you the same thing I am saying.......

and I totally agree with what you said
(may I remind you, who does your laundry, who goes grocery and cooks for you, who does the ledger book, who finds your socks when you're running late for office?? Just sticking to the traditional TV serials, since I'm sure my b/f will have a possible share of all these).

but about your working hrs... it was you who started by saying you didn't have time for things couples do and you find the same people everywhere you go............. that is why I made my business to do the math to figure out how much you work......... you might as well be a hooker .. what the fcuk do I care......????? I don't give a rats ass where you work and what you do............... it's none of my business..... I know that..

I am completely happy with my wife...... I don't go messing around.... I was just giving you a man's point of view about life, sex, relationships .. etc.. etc..

there is a saying....... PAT ti hai ladki .. pataney wala chaiye......

cause I know girls don't look at how a man looks ..... they are all about what the man is about........ if I am wrong correct me..... I have fren's who look like brad pitt and who look like KadherKhan........ tell you what Kaderkhan got more puss than BradPitt... wanna know why ? he is a playa... he is a smooth talker............ all I am saying is...
DC_GURL........ you are educated, making money , career minded, how come you are looking for MR.Perfect.... and you expect to find one???? good luck...

Peace Miss_DC......... this is the last time I am speak my opinion about this part... Hope you find that man before you are too old for even old man to look at you,,,,,

and by the way........... Miss DC.... the thread right above your thread starting by thanking MONEYMINDED was not targeted to you......... and I am not angry I am sad.. because you started by Dissing boys here in USA.......... I am the do nothing kind.... most single guys who are so freaking responsible about life when they come here.. didn't have life in nepal.... they were the ones who rode mini bus not even sajha bus... you get my point....... they didn't have money or life ... come on biatches.... I will take you one by one........... I had in nepal I have here so I don't care...

have a good life

I feel so sorry for DC_girl. Miss whoever you are think before you post anything that really does harm MAN dignity. I guess you won't be getting in any relation after reading all this shit. But you should consider whatever Gokhali_X. He seems like nice dude.

But you know what, I am in same dilemma as DC. Only difference is she is looking for guy and I am look for girl. Its been disaster for me to find somebody as perfect as I am. You know guys, whats wrong with me and dc_girl :- we are living in dream and fantasy.

Hehehehehe, I am kidding I am not looking Miss-perfect, I got Mrs-Perfect thou.

DC Gril. I was in the same dilemma when I got married! You dont want to marry a girl from Nepal because you think different; you dont want to marry a girl from here (like you!) because the ones around you are either arrogant (if they have made a little money or pretty or has a sense of pride that she has green card, etc, etc.) or useless (cause they dont know where they're going). The third kind was yet to find.

So......... I took a chance and got married old traditional way in Nepal.. saw a girl in Nepal "discovered" by my cousins. Talked to her for 20 mintues. Got married next months. We are happy here ever since! Believe me it works! Just get into your life and stop being choosy! No one is perfect! You have to adjust to your surrounding!

I knew a girl raised in the US since she was five. A boy, also raised in the US (and very successfu professionaly), wanted to marry her (they were introduced by family friends .. it was going to be an arranged marriage!). Girl wanted to "think" before saying "yes." Boy had no time for wait for an answer. Within a month he got married in Nepal and already got 2 kids! A happy man right now! The girl, of course, is still thinking -- is still unmarried at an age of 29. So STOP THINKING BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!

DC_Girl,
Your candid and opinionated views are somewhat refreshing.
How old are you? Just wondering when (at what age) liberated Nepali women start pondering very seriously about marriage/long-term relationships.

Girls or guys:
There is no such stupid thing like third type.There are enough good guys or girls out there.And remember, you just need one.If you don't find one....you are a loser...You deserve to remain single.If you fall in this category, you better be single forever and don't try to ruin someone's life.
DP.

Hey DC girl, bravo for bringing this topic!! I totally understand u! Plenty of people giving u a hard time here(this thread) I know! So many of my friends are forced to get married after knowing the guy or girl for few days haha! No wonder they are suffering now...... My honest opinion is that u should be able to find somebody of your type here. Don't discriminate between khaire or asian.....every race have some really compatible men out there. I know it's real tough to find a guy in Nepal because your perspectives and views of lives clashes.....he wants u to be a typical "sati savitiri" housewife whereas your aim to be a successful working woman and not only wife. I know most parents are very strict but I am lucky that mine aren't! I was able to choose my own guy and just got married....extremely happy! Date few people to see check your compatibility if your parents are easygoing u know! GOOD LUCK!!

DC Girl --
I hear you. It's tough to find a compatible partner, regardless of his/her race/ethnicity etc. Romanticated, I agree with you -- love is a matter of chance. I am speaking from a neutral position and here are my thoughts on this issue. Recently, I spoke with a friend's mother, a Bengali lady. She mentioned that unlike in the past, both boys and girls these days have become very selective in choosing their future partner. Something or the other is always lacking to either party, which, contrary to yesteryears, becomes highly unforgivable for each party. Whereas marriages were strictly arranged in the previous generation, and the boy and girl barely saw each other and gave their consent (mostly boys gave their consent, girls had to relent), today they have, for the most part, a CHOICE in what they want. There are many factors involved in this ability to choose. Education (greater access for girls compared to previous generation) empowers people with more expanded views on the world and therefore the desire and capability to take their own decisions. Financial independence in an increasing number of cases for both girls and boys as a result of greater access to education is another possible reason. Yet another reason is globalization and the attractiveness and pervasiveness of the so-called "modern" and "western" lifestyle where being able to choose one's own partner is a sign of "independence" (whatever that may be). So, most of us who fall in this category are often caught up in this dilemma of choosing the RIGHT person. The question then is: How much are YOU willing to compromise in your ideals versus the reality that exists out there? For example, girls here complain that Nepali guys are too short, too arrogant, too cheap, etc. Boys also have their plethora of complaints: Nepali girls are too short, too shy, too arrogant, etc. What is the root of these complaints? One possible reason is our tendency, esp for those of us in the US, to compare the opposite sex with the characteristics of "Americans" (whatever that may be). We are socialized into extolling the so-called virtues of "Americans." We are mesmerized by them. We seek them in our potential partner. We don't find them all (as we naively expect) and become disappointed and forget to appreciate the true virtues of Nepali men and women. For those of us living in Nepal, something similar holds true. We are so bombarded by various media (eg. the various models whose pictures are often splashed on sajha threads), through our own interactions with friends/relatives abroad, and so forth, that the notion of CHOICE as a sign of "freedom" and "independence" appeal to us and we crave for it. The onus is on US to choose whether we want to be swayed by these forces or whether we are willing to accept and appreciate the reality about Nepali men and women. I do not mean to say that the "reality" of Nepali men and women is that they are arrogant, shy, rude, etc. Those are human traits and independent of ethnicity or race. By reality I mean that there are certain differences and we should stop bickering about them and rather accept them for all that they are worth. But of course, if a non-Nepali is more your cup of tea, then so be it. The important thing is NOT to opt for one at the expense and ridicule of a fellow Nepali man or woman.

In peace.

nicely said Simple girl..

American bhaini, Nepali bhaini, Ugly bhaini, Beautiful Bhaini, kt, kt nai ho, and kta, kta nai ho...so it doesnt matter..only thing that matters is, is he/she is ready to have sex with you without commitments? :P