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 Intercaste marriage........ R U all with me???

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Posted on 03-31-06 12:11 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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I am from a bahun family, and the girl I love is chhetri. My MOM & DAD are educated person(both are professors) and I thought they wouldnot belive in caste system. But when I told them a love that gal, they said it is impossible. I haven;t talked with them bu they think she is from lower caste. I don't want to hurt their feelings but what about mine?? And the gal's? I don't know what to do? Would you all dare to go against you parent's decision?? I need some good comments, it is really a serious matter and I think you all guys are very good to help me out...
 
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Posted on 04-04-06 10:54 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Pundit bajjey!!!loll khoknai paryo, ruga cha!!! ani ho pundit, mero euta cousin ko chahi bihe garn thiyo mero bajee chaina etsko satta usko bihe ko date fix gardinu huncha ki..ke bhanu huncha?
 
Posted on 04-04-06 10:55 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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hyaaaaaaa if u want to marry then get married if not then dont kati yo pani bhayena tyo pani bhayena as if the whole world is coming to an end

azn-- don take ppl's name like that whts ur name
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:09 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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by da way i m chettry got that bitch....
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:12 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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i know you're chettri, i was calling by ur middle name, its pundit ni!! affai bhulyou? nyc gako paach din bachaina! hareyyy, ajkal to bhura-bhuri.. muwa buwa le ph garnu bhathyo ;) and ko bitech payou re?
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:13 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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tero bau ko bihe cha ree bholi.. tero aama royera jatra ree.. ph gareko re talai .. ta chai arkai bf snaga besta thiss reee..
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:38 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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mero bau ko second bihe ta huna lagyo hola tara meri ama jata bhayera royeseko chaina ni! kina raseko hamro chettri bhai ki pundit bhanum?
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:40 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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oye chinnu na jannu jpt naban.. mero name popular cha that i know...
j baye ni malai nachinikaana mero bare jpt naban.. kijelous bhaiss
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:42 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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ke jpt bhanera, popular naam bhaneko galat ho ta? like ricky martin bhanya jastai ni! timi ta aba bhayi halyou nepali nyc gangsta, pura GD up ;) ma kina jelous hunu ni.. timro ramro dekhe bhane aasu aucha!! :D khusi ko aasu.. rokinna sakdaina so rok nabhana feri hai
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:44 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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teso baye chup lagera bas.. mero name lidai nahidddd...
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:46 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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popular cha bhanya haina? ke huncha ra timilai MR_X bhanera bolauna manlagdaina ke.. jastai timi malai "azn" bhanera bolauchau mali ni nishan pundit basnet bhanna manlagcha ni ho, mr x sounds so.. xxy axy sexy ke! i am not so sexual!
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:47 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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azwnty,
arreteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:47 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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dont act like prostitute nowww
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:51 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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lfcccccccccccccccccccccccc
mareteeeee

NPB
prostitute bhanya ke? im not acting like anything hou! jhan sajjan bani rachu, tyo ta ma chu nai, mero nam nai sajjani, hey i was thinking timro cell no.. diu ki, time pass huncha ni, haina ra?
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:52 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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mero cell no reeeee... wtfff
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:54 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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hehe hamro mr x ko cell no ko lagi ketiharu marchan, asti queens rd nyc ma, euta bihos bhayeko khabar sunyathe!! dherai bling bling ani nakkale nabana la, cell ph # ta disclose gardinna bhayo!
 
Posted on 04-04-06 11:55 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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queenz ree i neva been to queens la... hahaha aati guff hanneee chinu na janu
 
Posted on 04-05-06 8:32 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Hoina sabai jana kasto kukur ani biralo jasto

Mero pir marka ko ta kasailai pani matlab nai chhina

Malai jhan yaha arko kura ma pani help chhaiyo bhaneko........ yesto jhagada garne thauma kasari afno samasya lekhne khoi
 
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Narisauna Rum

Koi Koi murkha chhan bhanera sabai ta murkha chhainan ni. Tini haru ko kura ko wastai nagara......... hami chhau ni timro marka bujhne..
 
Posted on 04-05-06 12:06 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Pyakuli, Naam ta timro ramro nai chha, tara bhawana jhan ramro rahechha......mero maya ko jastai
 
Posted on 04-10-06 11:11 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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I found this article at Sajha Guild which is relevant to this discussion.

Is it really the problem of generation gap?

As the earth has been revolving in a constant rate for ages, many things on its periphery are also gradually changing. And one of the things, that is constantly altering is the way we think. In our parent’s time, they used to meet their life-partner first time straight on the marriage spot. Few lucky ones used to get a glance of their will-be in pictures before hand. This might sound like fairy tale to many; especially to those who are polished with the sense of western independence and have spent major part of their lives in Europe or North America. That is the reality but the scenario is gradually changing. At least, we don’t need to wait till the wedding date to get a glance of future life partner today. Furthermore, there are numerous examples where parents only know about the marriage of their offspring after the marriage itself. But this transition has not been silky. There still exist few hurdles in the current practice where these two opposite ends of the philosophy merge together. Majority of guardians regardless of their location (east or west part of the world) are still influenced by the old practice and the young ones advocate independence and freedom to take their own decision which creates tension in the family. Please note that I am not advocating the teenage infatuation or stubbornness here. I am representing the views of independent, mature and responsible age group.

Marriage is certainly not a kid’s game but a major decision in life of choosing someone to spend the rest of the life with. Selecting a life-partner to spend whole life has become a hard drive on icy roads these days as we often come across a predicament whether to go for parent’s choice or your own. Few lucky ones, who haven’t picked the one to spend the life with or have decided they will go with parent’s choice or determined to go for their own choice, might not trip on this dilemma. In our Nepalese context, it’s hard to go against parent’s will as we are brought up in the environment where we are taught to be respectful to the elders, maintain cordial atmosphere in family and be disciplined. In one hand, most of the parents want their son/daughter get married with someone they pick. But in another hand, the young generation wants to get married with someone they have known for sometime. Boys do have a bit of freedom in this matter and they can at least convince their families if the girl is from similar social background; whereas girls are major victims of this traditional ill-practice. They are not even endowed with any opportunity to choose someone for themselves. And, even if she manages to find a guy for herself with similar social background, she is destined to sacrifice her feeling with the fear of crossing the family barrier and her role as a loyal daughter to her parents. The major point of the conflict is whether a boy/girl has the right to pick his/her life-partner or not. Isn’t there any middle way out of this clash?

The prime factor which generates this conflict of interest is racial or caste system. I guess our generation really doesn’t care about whether his/her beloved is from same race/caste or not. Many are dealing with an impasse where the parents only accept the new member of the family from same race/cast; but they might end up with inter-caste affairs. Let me present few examples here. There is one friend of mine who fell in love with a girl from another caste and they are living together in America. My friend talked with his family about the girl and his family just got freaked out. Now this young couple is in the verge of break-up because my dear friend is reluctant to go against the will of the parents. And, there is another similar story. A girl fell in love with a friend of mine who is studying in Canada. He likes the girl, who goes to the same university as him, very much as she is smart, beautiful, educated or full of qualities a guy seeks in a wife. But the main problem is that they belong to different caste and their families have become a big obstacle between them. For many, the caste/race system has become a daunting challenge between the heart and the parents. Many parents are open enough to accept the new member in the family regardless of the race/caste these days which is really a good beginning. But it still can be a highly debatable issue between old and new generation in most of the Nepali family at the present context but I hope this problem will slowly fade away along with the time and emergence of new generations.

The race/caste system is not the only root of the conflict. There also exists a misconception among Nepali parents that young generation is not mature enough to take their own decision. Kids always remain kids for them. Whoever kids choose even if they are competent and from the same social background (race/caste), the parents are overwhelmed with the conservative reflection that the kids always come up with wrong choices. It’s not that parents are really enemies of the kids but they always possess a superiority complex that they have torn more clothes than kids.

So, what’s the way out from this disagreement between old and new generation? Although they say that love is blind and it doesn’t really care about any bars, we can’t be really blind picking life-partners for ourselves. We, at least, need to open one eye to look towards family’s perspectives. The young generation need to be selective so that family won’t be able create any traditional barriers like race or caste. We need to look before we leap. Someone may stamp me as racist because of my opinion but being pragmatic; I am advocating this doctrine especially for those whose family is strict enough to break the relation with the kids rather than accepting a new member from different race/caste. I guess that will be a good way out where you can still kill the snake but you won’t break your stick either. Few still dare to jump on the fire and might end up with extinguishing the fire as the time passes. And, parents also need to confirm with kids whether they have picked someone to spend the life with beforehand rather than just imposing their decision on kids. Children always do not come up with wrong choices. If both parent and kid give due respect to each other’s perspective, we may end up with better solution of this conundrum than ever lasting family dispute.
 



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